Caring for a parent or loved one from a distance can make the holidays more stressful. Long-distance caregiving takes planning, but you can still be part of their season and help them feel less alone.
Senior Helpers Kelowna shares a few ways to stay connected across the miles.
Set Up a Calling Rhythm
Random calls can get missed in busy weeks. Setting a regular time to talk helps your loved one know when to expect your call. It also helps you notice if anything seems off.
Video calls let you see how your loved one is doing and get a better sense of their home environment. If a video call feels difficult, ask a trusted friend or neighbour to help set up a tablet. This way, your loved one can join the call with just one tap.
Between calls, other formats can keep the connection going, such as:
- A handwritten card
- A short voice message
- A photo or short video update
A regular calling schedule gives your loved one something to look forward to. It also helps you notice any changes that may need your attention.
Share Traditions Across the Miles
Shared traditions don’t need to be elaborate. Ideas include:
- Cooking the same recipe on the same evening and eating together over video.
- Watching a favourite show or game at the same time while chatting on the phone.
- Having children or grandchildren mail drawings or letters.
Not everyone marks every holiday. If your loved one prefers to treat December like any other month, keep the rituals simple and personal. For example, you could solve a weekly puzzle together over the phone.
Building a Support Network for Long-Distance Caregiving
You can’t drop by on short notice, but someone nearby can. Make a short list of neighbours, friends, and members of your loved one’s faith community who see them regularly. Keep their phone numbers handy. Ask in advance if they would be comfortable checking in when you have a concern.
The Government of Canada's report on the social isolation of seniors looks at why isolation happens and how communities can respond. Community centres and the Okanagan Regional Library list their programs online. You can check upcoming activities and help your loved one register.
What to Look for When You Visit
When you visit, look beyond how your loved one sounds on the phone. They may not mention when they’ve had a difficult week. Signs that more help may be needed include:
- Unopened mail
- Spoiled food or little food in the house
- Missed appointments
- Unexplained weight loss
Encourage your loved one to talk with their family doctor about any changes in their health or mood. Offer to join the appointment by phone if they’d like a second set of ears.
You could share the Canadian Mental Health Association’s guide to coping with loneliness with your loved one for practical tips and ideas. If anyone is in crisis, call or text 9-8-8.
Someone Nearby When You Can't Be
Long-distance caregiving makes regular updates even more important. Senior Helpers Kelowna provides companionship, meal preparation, light housekeeping, rides to appointments, and regular check-ins.
We can also share updates with family members who live far away. We serve families in Kelowna, West Kelowna, Penticton, Lake Country, and Oyama. Contact us to arrange support for your parent this winter.